A MAN has fallen out with his wife over a family tradition which she called “disgusting and gross”.
The man took to Reddit’s Am I The A*****e? forum to question whether not he was in the wrong, as he explained that his family has a tradition where the “firstborn will get a special stuffed animal”.
In the tradition, first-born children are given special toys that are stuffed with their parent’s hairCredit: Getty
“The reason that it’s special is because the stuffing is made from their parent’s hair,” he added.
“The way it works is that once a child is old enough to start getting their hair cut, their parent will save as much of that hair as they can.
“When the child becomes a parent themselves, the new grandparent will use the saved hair to make a stuffed animal to give to the baby.”
According to his post, the toy represents “the new parent’s connection to the child” and is “a way of connecting the new life to their new family”.
Given that he and his wife had their first child, a baby girl, three months ago, he wanted to continue the tradition by giving his daughter one of the toys.
Her toy would be a bear that his mother “spent a lot of time making from scratch to fill with my childhood hair”.
But, when he told his wife about the tradition ahead of giving the bear to their daughter, she “blew up” at him and said it was “gross and disgusting” and she didn’t want it around their baby.
She also argued that it was “unhygienic”, to which he responded that the hair used for stuffing is “clean and well preserved”.
“We argued, and eventually she said that if I ever put “that thing” near her daughter, that she would throw it in the trash,” he continued.
“I was shocked. This is something that represents decades of my mother’s work and planning and generations of my family’s history.
“I told my wife that if she’s so cruel and callous about something that means so much to me and my family, then she’s not the person I thought she was.
The pair have been arguing non-stop about the tradition, with the woman even falling out with her mother-in-law tooCredit: Getty
“She just called my family’s tradition ‘weird and culty’.”
Following the row, he told his mum about the fight and now “she’s feuding with my wife too”.
His wife also got her family involved, as well as “calling me some vulgar names”.
“But am I really an a**hole for wanting to give my special girl her special bear?” he concluded.
In the comments section of the post, people were largely divided on who was in the wrong.
“It’s unusual, but it’s not unhygienic or disgusting,” one person wrote.
“Human and animal hair has long been used to stuff furnishings and toys, and human hair has also long been used in personal keepsakes like love tokens and mourning jewellery.”
While another agreed: “Just because it’s strange doesn’t mean she has the right to be cruel, and the wife is being cruel.”
However, someone else argued: “It’s creepy. I mean, if the family likes it that’s fine, but OP shouldn’t expect their wife to be onboard with it.
“That’s not right. I wish people would learn that just because something’s a family tradition that doesn’t mean others have to participate.”
“I think the tradition itself is both sweet and gross at the same time,” another person commented.
“I can definitely understand your wife being grossed out by your weird traditional voodoo doll.”
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