women blowing bubble gum

Tease them (Picture: Getty)

Ah, the good old-fashioned blowjob.

Guaranteed to satisfy, likely to result in a return of the favour (though you shouldn’t do it for this reason), and pretty easy to deliver once you’ve got the hang of it.

Obviously, pleasure is individual – what one penis owner will love, another might hate.

Communication is always important in sex and a simple conversation can revolutionise how well the act goes.

However, there are some tried and tested blowjob tips that are likely to go down well, or at the very least, allow for some fun practice.

These are just some of the ways you can approach giving blowjobs.


cucumber

Get better acquainted (Picture: Getty/Metro.co.uk)

  1. Tease them first: It’s easy to get tired giving a blowjob, so don’t rush in – tease them by touching and running your tongue up their shaft slowly, as well as kissing and stroking their body.
  2. Wear something sexy: Something that you feel incredible in and they are turned on by – it’ll help your confidence.
  3. Incorporate hands: Struggling to go deep? Don’t worry – let your hands work on what your mouth can’t get around by simultaneously giving a hand job.
  4. Vary the pace: Get to know what your partner likes by adjusting your pacing. Listen out for any reactions that might indicate they’re particularly enjoying it, such as heavier breathing or sighs.
  5. Make noises: Making the odd ‘mmm’ not only will show your partner you’re loving giving head, they’ll also feel the soft vibration from your voice on their shaft which can add to the experience.
  6. Don’t forget the tip: The tip can be very sensitive – so do this with caution as for some people it may be ‘too much’ – lick and stimulate the tip of the penis as you come up for air.
  7. Make sure you’re enjoying it: Anyone that’s forcing your head down to deepthroat or is making your uncomfortable doesn’t deserve to receive a BJ from you. Communicate what you don’t like. Make sure you’re enjoying the situation fully – the BJ is going to be better that way.
  8. Give them a heads up if you don’t want them to cum in your mouth: Again, you’ve got to be comfortable.
  9. Get comfy: If you’re planning to be there for a while, get into a position that isn’t going to give you pins and needles or back ache.
  10. Spit: They’ll likely find it hot to see you spit on them, and it’ll keep things nice and smooth. Also, your mouth will get dry.
  11. Flavoured lube: Not a fan of the tip above? Use a flavoured lube to keep things slippery and friction-free.
  12. Put the teeth away: It’s a no brainer.
  13. Don’t go too aggressive: Porn might make you think you need to go as fast as possible, but this is where teeth are more likely to make an appearance.
  14. Eye contact: Depending on your position, look up and make eye contact if they’re looking too. It can add more intimacy and be a turn-on for your partner.
  15. Flick the frenulum with your tongue: This is the underside of the penis head – it’s sensitive.
  16. Notice when there’s precum: How much someone will precum varies person to person, but if you’re noticing it, it’s likely they’re enjoying it – so take note of what you did to make that happen.
  17. Take breaks: You don’t need to be down there the whole time. Getting tired or a dry mouth? Come up and try other things like sucking or massaging their balls, giving a hand job, and changing your position.
  18. Licking and sucking: Do a combination of both – it’s easy to forget to use your tongue and get stuck in a sucking rhythm.
  19. Breath control: Practice breathing while the penis is in your mouth. If you’re comfortable, try sucking air in to tighten the space in your mouth – it’ll likely feel more pleasurable.
  20. Pay attention to their reactions: Did they let out a sound that could suggest something didn’t feel good? Don’t be afraid to ask.
  21. Leave 69ing for another time: It’s harder to control what you’re doing in this position – so save it for when you feel more confident.
  22. Get out a mirror: If your partner is turned on by visuals, give head by a mirror so they have the angle of looking down at you and of the action in the mirror. It’ll make good wank bank material.
  23. Remember the rest of their body: Run your hands over their chest and torso, feel their thighs, touch them in sensitive spots you can reach. It can be easy to forget and just focus on the penis, while your hands lie limp.
  24. Get acquainted with the perineum: This is the area between the scrotum and anus. It’s very sensitive, and some people will love being stimulated here with a tongue or fingers.
  25. Get in the shower: Try this in the shower with the added sensation of water running down the body.
  26. Butt play: Only go there if you know your partner wants this. Slipping a finger here while you give a blow job can enhance the experience.
  27. Add a toy: Try things like cock rings to enhance what you’re doing manually.
  28. Don’t focus on the cum shot: This isn’t a porno – sometimes cumming won’t mark the end of the experience – that’s okay and doesn’t mean it wasn’t a good BJ.
  29. It’s okay if your gag reflex limits how far you can go: We all have one, some more than others. You can only go as deep as you can go, so don’t force yourself. You can slowly edge towards taking more of the shaft in, but don’t pressure yourself.
  30. Don’t overthink it: Ultimately, there is no manual to the perfect blowjob as it’s so individual. So once you get started, stop worrying about every move you make – sex is about exploring, after all. It is far better when your brain is in the moment.
  31. Chat after: Later on, maybe if you’re cuddling, ask for feedback. What did they like, what did they want more of?



Smut Drop

Smut Drop is a weekly podcast with hosts Jackie Adedeji and Miranda Kane from Metro.co.uk, touching on sex, dating and relationships.

With no holds barred, it’s the home of sex positive chat, where our hosts will be joined each week with sexperts and special guests to explore the world of the erotic.

And we want to hear from you, too! As part of our podcast we’ll be sharing listeners’ experiences, thoughts and questions on a different theme every week.

So if you want to be involved in something brilliant – either anonymously or using your bold and beautiful name – drop us an email to [email protected] or slide into our DMs on Twitter @smutdrop.

With new episodes dropping every Wednesday, you can download Smut Drop from all your usual places.

Do you have a story to share?

Get in touch by emailing [email protected].